• DOMESTIC VIOLENCE

    It’s never easy to come to terms with the fact that you may be experiencing domestic violence and abuse. Cumbria has a countywide domestic violence service (Let go) who are available to help and advise, if they can’t support you themselves they will be able to signpost you to someone who can.

  • Domestic Violence Stats & Figures in Cumbria

    The numbers speak for themselves.

    1 in 4 Women in Cumbria

    experience domestic violence in their lifetime

    6-10% of Women in Cumbria

    experience domestic violence in a year

    400 Calls a day

    are answered a day by the national domestic violence helpline

    Every 60 seconds a call to police

    Every minute in the UK someone calls to report an incident of domestic violence

    Less than 40%

    of domestic violence incidents are reported to police

    40% of the calls to Cumbria police

    are repeat calls of domestic violence

    52% of child protection cases

    involve domestic violence

    20% of female UK teenagers

    have been hit by a boyfriend

  • On average it takes 35 incidents before someone ask the police for help in domestic violence.

    IN AN EMERGENCY ALWAYS DIAL 999

    Everyone is entitled to live safely without fear of violence or abuse and incidents of domestic violence are not acceptable. Cumbria Police take this issue very seriously and investigate all incidents reported to them.

    The following information and advice will help you, or someone you know who is a victim of violence to stay safe.

    If an incident occurs:

    • Try to leave before the incident gets worse and go to a safe place if possible, if not try to remain calm and near to an escape route in case you can leave quickly.
    • When it is safe, get out of danger as soon as possible and go to a safe place. This may be with friends, family or someone you can trust.
    • Always call 999 in an emergency or use a pre-agreed code word to alert family or friends to call the police for you.
    • Keep a record of what has happened to you, including damage to your home and belongings to give to the police.

    Report domestic violence to the Police straight away, nationally it takes on average 35 incidents before someone will ask the Police for help, so please do something about this sooner, chances are it will happen again.

    If you, or someone you know is suffering from domestic violence we are here to help you. Talk to us or someone you trust and together we can stop domestic violence.

    For more information on Cumbria's domestic violence services, follow the link to http://www.impacthousing.org.uk/let-go-domestic-violence-service

    You can contact the police on 101. In an emergency always dial 999.

  • Is your teenager in an abusive relationship?

    Violence can happen in teenage relationships, so make sure you know the signs and can help your child.

    Different types of abuse

    physical, emotional and verbal abuse.

    Abuse in relationships – including those between teenagers – can happen to men and boys, but it's much more likely to happen to women and girls. It also happens in same-sex relationships.

    Physical abuse can include hitting, kicking, punching, slapping, pushing, and pressuring or forcing someone into sexual activity.

    Emotional and verbal abuse involves a person:

    • saying things that make their partner feel small or stupid
    • pressuring their partner to do things they don't want to do, including sexual things
    • checking up on their partner – for instance, by text – all the time to find out where they are and who they're with
    • threatening to hurt their partner or someone close to their partner, including pets

    Warning Signs

    physical, emotional and verbal abuse.

    • no longer hanging out with their circle of friends
    • not doing as well at school, or skipping school altogether
    • constantly checking their phone
    • being withdrawn and quieter than usual
    • being angry and becoming irritable when asked how they're doing
    • making excuses for their boyfriend or girlfriend
    • having unexplained scratches or bruises 
    • showing changes in mood or personality
    • using drugs or alcohol

    Warning signs your teen's partner is abusive

    It's a sign of controlling or violent behaviour if your child's boyfriend or girlfriend:

    • gets extremely jealous
    • monitors texts, messages, calls and emails, and gets angry if there isn't an instant response 
    • has trouble controlling his or her emotions, particularly anger 
    • stops your child seeing or talking with friends and family as much as they'd like
    • uses force during an argument
    • blames others for his or her problems or feelings
    • is verbally abusive
    • shows threatening behaviour towards others

     

  • Breaking the cycle

    Churches Together in Cumbria:

    Acknowledge

    • Domestic violence is an affront to the Christian Gospel.
    • Resolves to work towards making all our churches safe places where those who experience or have witnessed domestic violence can find sanctuary and informed help.
    • Calls on churches and congregations to be aware of the signs of domestic violence, the support available for victims, families and perpetrators and
    • Urges every local congregation to break the silence about domestic violence.

    Charter for Churches

    • Holds that domestic abuse in all its forms is unacceptable and inconsistent/ incompatible with the Christian faith and a Christian way of living. 
    • Will ensure that its message and ministry consistently reflects this view. 
    • Accepts that domestic abuse is a serious problem that occurs in church families as well as in wider society. 
    • Undertakes to listen to, support and care for those affected by domestic abuse
    • Will publicise the existence of and be in contact with local support agencies. We will also learn from them and work with them and support them in appropriate ways
    • Seeks to witness to the love, justice, mercy and forgiveness of God.
    • Will teach what it means to be male and female, equally made in God's image.
    • Will seek to appoint a representative to encourage the use of good practice guidelines and to keep the church informed about developments in this important element of pastoral care.
  • WHERE TO GET HELP

    Let go north 01228 633640

    Let go south 01229 582386
    Let go west 01900 842991/842992

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